Here you go, AE file (v2021) and a Screenshot attached.
Disregard the background, it's just a random gradient to help seeing the result.
In AE, you can tell a layer (file input, whatever) to use its own alpha, another layer's or file's alpha, or any arbitrary alpha channel, by using one of the Matte effects on it.
To make it work you need to:
- set the original base layer (your beauty) to use the file alpha (done automatically by EXtractoR) - that's what you probably did already
- duplicate that layer, set EXtractoR to use the bloom&glare channel
- with that layer selected, add a 'Set Matte' effect
- in the 'Set Matte' effect UI, set matte to 'full color' or 'plain color' (I'm using a german OS so no idea what it's called in english)
Now you've effectively told that layer to use a fully white mask instead the one in the original EXR file.